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- The Defining Decade –– Meg Jay
- Shoulds can masquerade as high standards or lofty goals, but they are not the same. Goals direct us from the inside, but shoulds are paralyzing judgements from the outside. Goals feel like authentic dreams while shoulds feel like oppressive obligations. Shoulds set up a false dichotomy between either meeting an ideal or being a failure, between perfection or settling. The tyranny of the should even pits us against our own best interests. [[Paralyzing perfectionism]]
- The Obstacle is the Way –– Ryan Holiday
- Pragmatism is not so much realism as flexibility. But we all spend so much time looking for the perfect solution that we pass up what's right in front of us. [[Paralyzing perfectionism]]