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  • The Defining Decade –– Meg Jay
    • [[Borrowing an Ego]] - reaching out to someone else for comfort, and letting their frontal lobe do all of the work.
      • We all need to do that sometimes, but if we externalize our distress too much, we don't learn to handle bad days on our own. We don't practice soothing ourselves just when our brains are in the best position to pick up new skills. We don't learn how to calm ourselves down.